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A policeman sees a drunk man searching under a streetlight and asks what he's lost. "My keys," says the man. After searching together for a few minutes, the officer asks: "Are you sure you lost them here?"

"No," admits the man. "I lost them in the park."

"Then why are you searching here?!"

"Because," answers the man, "this is where the light is." -the principle of the drunkard's search.

We look for meaning in the familiar, connection in the convenient and our Jewish identity in the places that are easy, comfortable, and already lit up. However, sometimes, the real treasure is somewhere that requires us to do a little more work to illuminate.

In 1907, the Rebbe Rashab, Rabbi Sholom DovBer of Lubavitch, was at a health spa in Würzburg, Germany. A group of Chassidim came to spend Shabbos with him. After kiddush and a few heartfelt l'chaims, Reb Yosef Yuzik Horowitz asked a seemingly simple question:

"Rebbe, what is a chossid?"
"A chossid," said the Rebbe, "is a lamplighter. He walks the streets carrying a flame at the end of a stick. He knows the flame is not his. And he goes from lamp to lamp to set them alight."
"What if the lamp is in a desert?" questioned Reb Yosef Yuzik.
"Then one must go and light it. And when one lights a lamp in a desert, the desolation becomes visible. The barren wilderness will then be ashamed before the burning lamp."
"What if the lamp is at sea?" continues Reb Yosef Yuzik.
"Then one must undress, dive in, and go light it." Answered the Rebbe.
"But Rebbe, I do not see the lamps!" Reb Yosef Yuzik cries out.
"Because," said the Rebbe quietly, "you are not yet a lamplighter."
"How does one become a lamplighter?" asked Reb Yosef Yuzik.
"First, you must reject the evil within yourself. Start with yourself, cleanse yourself, refine yourself, and you will see the lamp within your fellow. When a person is himself coarse, G‑d forbid, he sees coarseness; when a person is himself refined, he sees the refinement in others."
Reb Yosef Yuzik then asked: "Is one to grab the other by the throat?"
Replied the Rebbe: "By the throat, no; by the lapels, yes."

Every single one of us is both a lamp waiting to be lit as well as a lamplighter for someone else.

Not everyone inspires the same way. Some, like my childhood rabbi, Rabbi Raichik of Los Angeles, led with such tenderness. When he had to tell you something wasn't kosher, he would sigh first as he genuinely wished you could have enjoyed it. His path was kindness.

Others inspire with rigor; a spiritual personal trainer who pushes you because they see what you're capable of.

Both are valid. In fact, there are seven pathways, like the seven branches of the Menorah, each casting its light at a different angle. Each illuminating something the others can't quite reach. The same soul may need a different flame at different moments in life.

Sometimes we inspire directly and at other times, the most powerful thing we can do is simply live in a way that makes others lean toward the light.

The Mishnah in Avot says: Be among the students of Aaron; loving peace, pursuing peace, loving people, and drawing them close to Torah. Not compromising the Torah. Attracting people toward it without watering it down.

It’s our job to be a lamplighter; to do whatever it takes to bring the light of Hashem and His Torah to others.

Where in your life are you searching under the streetlight, when your real keys are somewhere that needs you to bring the light?

Who do you know that might be an unlit lamp, waiting for someone to show up and light the way? You don't need to be a scholar or prepare a polished speech. Just carry the flame and walk toward them.

Even a genuine invite counts, we're 14 RSVPs from our goal for Shabbat100 😉.

As the Rebbe teaches: "By the throat, no. By the lapels, yes."

Warm regards and a bright Shabbos,

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

P.S. I'm curious how/if you see this as relevant in your own life.

Everyone I know who has been married for a bit has had a rough week with their spouse and thought: are we okay?

Not necessarily a dramatic fight or a crisis. Just… a distance, where the connection felt thin, where you did your own thing and didn’t quite show up the way you know you should. When Friday night comes with Shabbos candles and a meal together, somehow we remember: we’re solid. That rough week didn’t define us. It was a moment, not our marriage.

This week’s parsha, Naso, contains one of the most puzzling passages in the Torah: the laws of the sotah, a woman suspected of being unfaithful. But betrayal isn’t only in marriage, so why does the Torah make such a big deal specifically about a married woman? Betrayal is wrong, but why focus on betrayal in marriage specifically?

Because the Jewish people are, in the deepest sense, married to Hashem. Not metaphorically, not poetically. This is the actual spiritual reality. Hashem is the husband. We are the wife. The Torah is our ketubah. The mitzvos are the way we show up for each other every day.

Practically, this means every single thing we do carries the weight of that relationship. A kind word, a mitzvah done with joy, a moment of honest prayer, these are acts within an intimate relationship. But so is every stumble.

When a married person slips up, even in a small way, it lands differently than if they were single. Not because G-d is keeping score differently, but because the bond is deeper. Even a minor lapse in our relationship with Hashem, something we might brush off as inconsequential, carries spiritual weight precisely because of how close we are.

And yet, the sotah, even if she entered a questionable situation, is not declared impure. She may well be entirely innocent. And the moment the process is complete, the Torah says she will be cleared and will conceive.

This is relevant to us because even in our most compromised moments, the bond isn’t broken. The inner spark of every soul, the pintele Yid, the Divine spark within, cannot be given to another. Hashem promised: “My glory I will not give to another.” That connection is permanent, even when we’ve temporarily acted like someone who forgot who they’re married to.

A rough week doesn’t end a good marriage. It’s an invitation to come back closer.

You might be in a season of feeling close to Hashem, where praying feels alive, Shabbos feels holy, and the mitzvos feel meaningful.

Or you might be in a season where it all feels distant. You’re going through the motions. You haven’t really prayed with intention in longer than you’d like to admit. The connection feels shaky.

Either way, the marriage is still there. Hashem hasn’t filed for divorce. The ketubah is still in effect.

The only question is: what are you going to do to show up for it this week?

Light the Shabbos candles. Make Kiddush. Come to shul. Do one mitzvah today with the awareness that you’re not just checking a box, you’re tending to the most important relationship of your life.

Good Shabbos,

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

P.S. When the sotah is cleared, the Talmud says she gives birth with greater ease and to children of greater spiritual quality than before. In other words, returning to the relationship with full heart doesn’t just restore what was, it creates something even more beautiful. That’s the power of coming home.

Have you ever met someone who keeps every Jewish law perfectly, but you can tell they’ve never thought for themselves? Have you ever met someone who questions everything, who finds new meaning in every text, who makes Torah feel alive, yet you sense they’re building on quicksand?

Shavuos is essentially the Jewish answer to this tension.

The Gemara tells a remarkable story. Moses ascends to heaven and finds G-d tying tiny crowns onto the letters of the Torah. Moses asks: why the decorations? G-d answers: there will be a man, named Akiva ben Yosef, who will derive mountains of Jewish law from every single one of these crowns.

Moses says: show him to me.

He’s transported forward in time and sits in Rabbi Akiva’s class. He didn’t understand what was being taught. Moses, who received the Torah directly from G-d, couldn’t follow the class?! Moses was sad, “His strength waned”.

A student asks Rabbi Akiva: where does this law come from? Rabbi Akiva answers: it’s a halacha transmitted to Moses from Sinai.

Moses’ mind was put at ease.

Since Torah tells us that Moses was the most humble person who ever lived, this can’t be about ego. Something much deeper is going on.

The Mishna uses two Hebrew words to describe two kinds of people: a bor and a be’er. A bor is a cistern, it holds water put in from the outside. A be’er is a well, it generates water from within. Both contain water. However, only the well is alive.

Rabbi Akiva didn’t learn to read until he was 40. He then became the greatest be’er of his generation, a living spring of Torah insight. How? Because even his most creative, mind-bending interpretations were ultimately rooted in what Moses received at Sinai. The creativity and novelty were real for the foundation was unshakable.

G-d wants that from each of us. Not just to carry Torah but to live it. Wrestle with it. Ask what it’s actually saying to you, in your life, right now.

However, creativity without a solid Torah foundation is not everlasting.

When we only go by what feels right, what resonates, what seems meaningful in the moment, we’re not discovering truth. We’re just hearing our own voice echo back at us. The ego is very good at disguising itself as spiritual insight.

That’s not be’er. That’s still just a bor being filled with your own thoughts instead of anyone else’s.

What kept Rabbi Akiva’s genius honest? The same thing that reassured Moses: a transmission, a chain, a foundation that doesn’t shift based on how you’re feeling that day. Moses was worried that maybe Akiva was just making things up until he realized Akiva traced everything back to the same source. Real creativity in Judaism isn’t about replacing the foundation. It’s about going deeper into it.

You are meant to question, push, explore, and find new meaning. But every time you do, you check: does this connect? Is there a Sinai at the root of this?

Practically, this means two things.

First: don’t coast. Ask questions. Figure out what the Torah is actually saying to you, now. If a mitzvah feels hollow, that’s not a reason to drop it, it’s an invitation to go deeper.

Second: keep coming back to the foundation. When you feel strongly that something is spiritually true, run it against the tradition. Not to suppress your insight, but to verify it. The best insights always hold up.

Be a be’er. Find your own water. Discover your own depths.

And make sure you know where Sinai is.

Chag Sameach and Good Shabbos,

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

Yesterday, Harford Chabad hosted the regional Kinus (a gathering of Chabad Rabbis from across the MD, VA, PA, NJ, DC and DE region).

A video of the Rebbe talking about what one is capable of achieving was shown. He said that what has been accomplished so far is "pale in comparison with what is truly possible". Not a criticism, more of a challenge and a statement of belief in us. The possibilities, he said, are much greater than we imagine.

The Torah portion this week speaks directly to this, beginning with Hashem commanding Moshe to count the Jewish people; tribe by tribe, person by person. In the census of the Jewish people, the greatest scholar and the simplest person both register as "one."

Counting seems to be about quantity, not quality. If counting minimizes everything unique about a person: their character, their achievements, and their journey, why count?  

Perhaps that is the point! The fact that every Jew counts as exactly one, no more and no less, is a statement of equal, infinite worth. On a soul level there is no hierarchy. The essential Divine spark in the most righteous person and in the one who is just beginning to find their way (or hasn't even begun yet) is the identical spark.

The mission is not to evaluate where each Jew stands spiritually, rather it is to bring as many people as possible to engage in their relationship with Hashem. When you increase the number of people connected, the quality and depth follow naturally. What we have accomplished so far pales in comparison with what is truly possible! There is more to do, we cannot rest!

I ended the day with two simultaneous feelings: gratitude and discomfort.

Gratitude for everything that our community has built here. For the people who have walked through our doors and for the families who have connected with their soul identity and their Judaism. Grateful for a community that has grown in ways I could not have predicted.

As well, I felt productive discomfort. The Rebbe was not saying "great job, take a break". He was saying: look at the gap between where we are and where we could be. That gap is your responsibility and on every one of us.

The Jew who has not yet had a real Shabbos experience. The family that has thought about connecting and hasn't yet made it happen. The one who hasn’t thought about Judaism since going to Hebrew school twenty (Thirty? Forty?) years ago. Each of these individuals is a one in the count of the Jewish people. We need each and every one to make our community whole.

Don't be deterred by undesirable qualities (as long as they do not pose a risk to others) or circumstances. What matters is the essential Jewish soul. That soul is precious beyond measure in every single one. The Rebbe shows us that every individual is precious and our potential to actually reach each and every one is realistic. He encourages us to succeed beyond our wildest imagination.

Let's prove him right!

Here is my challenge and statement of belief for you. Shavuos, the holiday when we relive the giving of the Torah, is approaching on May 22. The Torah tells us about that moment: every single Jew had to be present. The Talmud says that if even one of the Jewish people had been missing, G-d would not have given the Torah! That means the Torah belongs to each and every one of us.

This year, before Shavuos arrives, reach out to one person in your life who wouldn't celebrate otherwise. Invite them to be counted. One text or phone call saying ‘come join me’. Check harfordchabad.org/shavuos for this year's events and times. If you are out of town, join one of my fellow rabbis at a Chabad near your destination at www.HarfordChabad.org/centers.

Good Shabbos,

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

This is the video they showed of the Rebbe Talking

My grandfather, Mordechai Schusterman, passed away in 1995. This Shabbos is his yahrtzeit. He ended off his will with the following:

"The one request I have of my children and grandchildren is that they should not be haughty." (In Yiddish: ניט בלאזן פון זיך  don't blow hot air about yourself).

This week's Torah portion, Parshas Behar, opens with a seemingly odd detail. G-d gives Moshe the laws of Shemita, the Sabbatical year, and the Torah goes out of its way to tell us that this happened on Mount Sinai.

Rashi, the classic commentator, asks; All the Torah's laws were given at Sinai, why mention it specifically here?

Sinai itself is teaching us something.

Mount Sinai was the lowest of all the mountains. When the Torah was about to be given, every mountain showed up before Hashem with its credentials. Mt. Tabor said: I'm the tallest. Mt. Carmel said: I helped split the Red Sea. And little Sinai? It just stood there. Hashem chose Sinai. Not despite its smallness, but because of what that smallness represents. Mount Sinai wasn't a valley or flat ground; it was elevated above the terrain around it. It had genuine height and real qualities. 

The Rebbe points out that the other mountains weren't wrong to see themselves as elevated. The problem was that they came to G-d boasting about them. "Look at me. Look at what I've got. Give me the Torah because of my greatness."

True bitul, true humble self-awareness, doesn't mean you don't know your own worth. Rav Yosef in the Talmud said, "Do not teach that humility has ceased, for I am here." He knew he was humble, and he said so out loud and fascinatingly that's not a contradiction. Knowing your qualities while not being driven by them, that's the real thing.

The Torah describes Moshe as "more humble than any person on the face of the earth." And yet Moshe knew he was the one chosen to receive the Torah. He knew his greatness.

How did he hold both?

He understood that his gifts came from Above. If Hashem had given those same qualities to someone else, that person might have done more with them. His humility wasn't false modesty; it was an accurate accounting of where greatness actually comes from.

And because of that humility, he became the vessel through whom the Torah was given to the world.

My grandfather wasn't a Rabbi; he was a printer and worked hard. He also merited to read the Torah for the Rebbe in 770 for close to 39 years.  He knew struggle and hard times. And yet, the single ask he put in his will was: don't be haughty.

That's Mount Sinai.

Humbleness is the prerequisite for receiving the Torah. (Shavuot is coming up in two weeks www.harfordchabad.org/shavuot).  Pride says, "it's mine," and Torah says, "it's G-d's." Ego and Torah cannot coexist in the same space.

Is there a relationship in your life where your ego is in the way? A conversation you haven't had because it would require admitting you were wrong? A person you've been looking down on, even subtly?

Sinai teaches that the way up is actually down. That the vessel for the greatest thing in the world, the Torah itself, was the smallest mountain. My grandfather, who lived that lesson in his own modest, devoted life, left it as the only inheritance that really matters.

Good Shabbos,

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

P.S. Rabbi Heschel is giving a class in Pirkei Avos, Ethics of our Fathers, every Shabbos morning at 9:15 am between now and Shavuos. It's the ultimate guide to the nurturing very qualities my grandfather was talking about. Come join and learn with us.

Life is a three-part experience.

The first part is a gift; childhood. You didn't have to work. You didn't have to do anything other than be home. Hopefully your parents were able to provide food, clothing, shelter, and love. They were simply given to you.

At some point, as a teenager or young adult, you started to pave your own path. That path came with bruises and bumps. You had to work through things. You had to show up and do the work.

And hopefully, eventually, you find yourself. You recognize what makes you you. You become comfortable living in the oneness and awareness of who you really are.

This is exactly the experience of Passover, the Omer (the seven weeks between Passover and Shavuos), and Shavuos itself.

On Passover, we were redeemed from Egypt as a gift from G-d. We didn't deserve it. The matzah, made from wheat, flat and simple, represents that humility and unearned kindness.

Then comes the Omer period. The offering brought during these 49 days is made from barley, animal fodder. It represents the work we do on our animal self: the self-absorbed, reactive, impulsive part of us.

On Shavuos, culminating the Omer counting, we bring a wheat offering. The very thing that's forbidden on Passover, leavened bread, becomes the mitzvah on Shavuos. Why? Because by then, we are so in tune with truth and with who we really are that our ego and our intellect are no longer selfish. They become a conduit for G-d and G-dliness.

We get to experience this same three-part journey every single day.

We start the morning with saying Modeh Ani; thanking G-d for gifting us another day. A pure gift, before we've done a thing to earn it. A Passover moment.

Then we say the Shema, the contemplation, the internal work, the soul-searching. That's the Omer offering.

And we end our prayers with the Amidah, standing before G-d in complete oneness with Hashem. That's Shavuos.

Three times a day. Every day.

When we read about the sacrifices and offerings in this week's Torah portion, don't think of them only as ancient rituals that haven't been experienced in thousands of years. Think of them as a guide for life; ways we can sacrifice our internal instincts, our ego, our animal impulses, in order to become one with Hashem.

The Temple may not be standing. But the three-part journey? That's available to each one of us, every single morning.

Good Shabbos,

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

We all desire good things in life. Good food, a comfortable home, a vacation, a promotion at work, and a glass of wine. It would seem that indulging in these physical wants would conflict with and perhaps compromise our spiritual growth. Yet we see that Judaism doesn't ask us to stop wanting any of that; it’s part of being human. The Jerusalem Talmud (did you know there are two Talmuds?) actually says that in the world to come, every person will have to give an accounting for every permitted pleasure they did not enjoy. You will need to explain why you didn't allow yourself to experience those pleasures that you denied yourself.

We live in a reality where "just one more" really isn’t just ONE more. A world where a business trip can quietly turn into a moral crisis. Where the buffet, the phone, the social media, the drink, etc., have a pull that is hard to ignore. In this reality, limiting our access is not a restriction on our freedom; it is the infrastructure to gain freedom.

Don't ignore your physical desires, and don't feel guilty for wanting things. When you engage with the world the correct way, with structure and intention, you're not just “not sinning”, you're revealing G-dliness and elevating that food, that moment, that experience.

Putting aside the phone to enjoy a steak dinner with your family transforms the dinner into intentional family time. A Shabbos meal isn't just “not doing work”, it's actively celebrating Shabbos. Disconnecting for a focused Torah study session, because otherwise that time will evaporate. Deciding in advance what you'll order so you can choose deliberately. These restrictions and limitations are like the scaffolding at a construction site that allows us to build something holy in the first place.

Let’s keep the traditions our grandparents upheld, not only because we're nostalgic, but because they have kept our people elevated for thousands of years. Add in your kosher adherence, put up another mezuzah, light Shabbos candles, make kiddush, and come to shul in the morning.

Enjoy the steak, the Shabbos meal, the vacation, the success, the good life, just put up the fence first! It's not there to keep you small, it's there to keep you you.

Good Shabbos,

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

Have you ever committed to something bigger than your budget?

Maybe you pledged to a building campaign, said you’d cover the cost of a Kiddush, or told a friend “Don’t worry, I’ve got this”, and then quietly wondered how on earth you were going to pull it off.

That moment of stepping up beyond your means is actually the secret to opening new channels of blessing.

In this week’s Torah portion, we discuss tzaraas (a spiritual skin condition) and the purification sacrifices required afterward. Because animal sacrifices are expensive, the Torah has a two-tiered system: a wealthy person brings the more expensive animal sacrifices, whereas a poor person brings sacrifices made of just flour.

What happens if a poor person makes a vow to cover the sacrifice costs for a wealthy person? The Rambam (Maimonides) rules: the moment a poor person accepts the commitment, the Torah now views them as wealthy, and holds them to the wealthy person’s standard.

When we stretch beyond our financial reality to help another Jew something changes in the spiritual accounting world. G-d looks at what that person committed to, not what they currently have, and opens up new channels of blessing to make it happen.

The Rebbe shared a story that his father-in-law (the previous Rebbe), once encouraged someone to fund the printing of a Jewish book. The project’s cost was completely beyond that person’s means. The man accepted and the Previous Rebbe blessed him. At that time (and only a Tzaddik can say this), it wasn’t only beyond the person’s bank account, it was beyond the blessings allocated to him from Above.

After that commitment, the man became wealthy and was able to pay for the entire printing.

Although we need to put in effort, it’s not about the hustling or great timing. It’s making a commitment to something bigger than yourself.

When you sincerely take on a financial responsibility for another person, project, or communal need, even when the math doesn’t add up, you aren’t just spending money irresponsibly, you are creating the channels through which G-d can send you more.

The Rebbe says “G-d makes it possible for that person to carry out their positive resolution and to do so amidst wealth and prosperity.”

The next time you’re tempted to say “I can’t afford to give right now”, maybe ask yourself: can I afford not to?

Wishing you a Shabbat full of blessing and abundance,

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

P.S. what would you do to open your own new channels of blessing? 

We concluded the Passover holiday with the Moshiach Meal, a custom instituted by the Baal Shem Tov and strongly emphasized by the Lubavitcher Rebbe. At this meal, we touched on the idea of the Messianic era; how we live in a physical world where pleasure and connection to G-d are not in conflict. The physical world is not an obstacle to G-dliness, it is the point.

This is the kabbalistic concept of Dira B’Tachtonim, G-d’s desire for a dwelling in the lower worlds.

The last day of Passover is the eighth day. Everything in the world exists in quantities of seven. There are seven days of the week, seven notes in a musical scale, and seven colors in a rainbow. Seven represents the natural order. Eight means above nature, beyond the confines of what is typical.

Also, this week’s Torah portion is called Shemini, eight, as it begins with, “And it was on the eighth day.” Eight comes after seven. It emerges from within the natural order and then transcends it. This is not an escape from the physical world; it is the elevation of it.

Typically, a person connecting with G-d begins at the bottom and reaches upward.

Eight is when G-d returns to the person and reveals how He was present the entire time. G-d does not want us to leave the world behind; He wants to be found within it.

Imagine living in a world where everything you see and experience feels like G-d walking with you down the path. Where an obstacle in your way feels like something you signed up for, even asked for.

The Rebbe taught that we are on the cusp of the messianic age. The redemption has begun, we just need to open our eyes. The question is not when it will come, but whether we are training our eyes to see it.

This week tells us that even though the Messianic era has not yet arrived in a fully revealed sense, we can access Moshiach-consciousness right now. Even while living in a physical world, we can learn to see everything, even the things that appear entirely natural, as beyond nature.

What does that actually look like? Here are three practical ways to begin training that lens:

1. Pause Before the Reaction "There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in" - Leonard Cohen
The next time something frustrating or difficult happens, before responding, take one breath and ask, “What is G-d showing me here?” Not to force a false positivity, but to create a crack of space where a different perspective can enter. Over time, that pause becomes a habit, and the habit becomes a lens. 

2. End Each Day with One Moment of Revealed Goodness
Before going to sleep, say the Shema. Recognize that G-d is running the world and identify one thing from your day that was clearly good, a conversation, a meal, a moment of connection, and say out loud, “This was G-d.” Then identify one thing that felt hard or neutral, and practice saying, “This was also G-d.” The Baal Shem Tov taught that everything comes from Divine Providence. This exercise trains the mind to mean what it says.

3. Learn Something from the Week’s Parsha Daily
The Rebbe emphasized that we must live with the times. This means not just reading the Torah portion, but making it alive and relevant to our lives. This week’s portion, Shemini, asks you to find the eight in your own life. Look for the place where you are being invited beyond your natural limitations. Spend some time each day learning the Torah portion (harfordchabad.org/dailystudy) and ask, where is this showing up in my life right now?​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

Have a transcendent Shabbos,

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

As we all prepare for Passover, which begins tomorrow (Wednesday) night, I want to encourage you to please consider, at a minimum, eating Matzah and drinking 4 cups of grape juice or wine after sundown, which is approximately 8 PM in Bel Air.

The Seder is a feast celebrating freedom. Freedom means having the ability to make choices on your own, without being held back by internal or external factors. This is true freedom.

We could put together a booklet for every line in the Haggadah explaining how it represents freedom. However, this Passover, I encourage you to take a moment to experience freedom. Not only going through a checklist of things that you must do to technically fulfill the requirements of the Seder, but to go to the Seder with an open mind and open heart. To recognize that 3,338 years ago, Hashem gave us the ability to choose. Hashem gave us the ability to recognize that every setback and every challenge is really an exercise routine meant to help us grow and see who we are in our souls.

When I speak to people who are in recovery, one of the things they tell me is that, by going through the 12-step process, they are forced to face their true selves and reveal their deepest selves.

The Seder is also a process; a 15-step process to true freedom.

Kadesh: Kiddush, sanctification. “Because I’ve created you in this world, because I’ve made you.” Hashem holds us in high esteem. We are holy.

Urchatz: Wash your hands, because we’re all imperfect. You are no less special than anybody else, and you are no more special than anybody else. We are setting the foundation of what it means to have a healthy understanding of who we are: created by Hashem, intentionally holy, and imperfect.

Karpas: We dip into saltwater. We begin to recognize that a profound, deep experience is about to unfold. A taste of bitter water. Tears. Making space for something we’re going to go through. Just a little bit to acknowledge what we’re about to experience.

Yachatz: The simple act of taking the whole self, cracking it, putting away the bigger half in hiding, and showing up with the smaller half, is a way of recognizing that, right now, we are still experiencing the smaller half of ourselves.

Maggid: Telling the story. We try to understand the whole of Egypt as we face our internal demons. Once you face your Egypt, you do not need to experience it ever again.

Rachtzah: Wash hands again. Recognize that while we are still working on ourselves, our hands are still imperfect.

Motzi, Matzah, Maror: We thank Hashem for the experience, the humility, and the bitterness. We experience each one separately.

Korech: We bring them all together. We recognize that the different parts of ourselves, the challenges and the blessings together is what makes us who we are and ready for redemption.

Shulchan Aruch: I am free and can enjoy that Hashem wants to nourish me. He wants me to experience physical pleasure together with divine pleasure. When done correctly, the physical pleasure is also part of serving Hashem.

Tzafun: The Afikoman. We can now reveal the full self that was hidden for a very long time. And who’s holding the bigger piece? The little kid (your inner child?).

Beyrach: Thank you, Hashem. You should be blessed as You gave me this perfectly imperfect life. You made me unique and free.

Hallel: We feel that we belong. The only thing left to do is get up and sing.

Nirtzah: The grand culmination of this entire process is to know that we are desired and wanted. Even if our Seder was imperfect, Hashem wants us.

This is the journey of Passover. From slavery to freedom, from hiding to wholeness, and from shame to song.

Just as our ancestors walked out of Egypt not knowing exactly what would come next, yet trusted that they were led by something greater, we too can walk out of this Seder a little freer than when we sat down. The matzah we eat is called the “bread of affliction”. It is also the bread of faith that our ancestors took with them on their way out. The same humble, simple thing that represents our pain is also the symbol of our redemption. That is the story of every one of us.

Wishing you and your family a kosher and joyful Passover; Chag Sameach!

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman
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There are certain things that need to be constant. They always need to be happening, not just last for a week or a year. They are beyond time.

The Torah tells us that the fire on the altar in the Holy Temple must always burn, without interruption. What makes this commandment remarkable is that even in a state of ritual impurity and even on Shabbos, the holiest day of the week, when nearly all labor is forbidden, the fire must burn.

Constantly

There are times when we may think we don't need a fire. We are in a state of ‘Shabbos’; attending every program, every class and fully invested in our spiritual experience. We feel at the peak of our religiosity. Even then, the Torah tells us that we need to keep the fire burning. That experience must not just technically be complete, another thing on our checklist, but also with passion, with fire.

Additionally, there are times when we feel very distant, impure. Times when we feel it is hard to generate a fire, an excitement for Judaism. In times of revealed antisemitism, it gets harder to be passionate, to be excited, to be outwardly Jewish. Yet, even in those times, even when we're feeling distant, the fire must not go out, we need to remain constantly excited.

And if the fire is missing, the sanctuary is incomplete. We can't convince ourselves that all is good as long as we're doing what we need to be doing. The fire must constantly burn! We must feel connected to the Torah that we study. Prayer should feel like a conversation with G-d; building an active relationship with Him. Acts of kindness and mitzvot must be done with excitement, passion and in a way that's contagious. Doing so will attract others to do the same; who doesn’t want to be part of something awesome and alive?

This is the challenge that the Amalekites created. They created a coldness, a frigidity, a lack of passion in our service of G-d. Amalek wanted us to feel that our Judaism was just habit and tradition/history. The antidote to that is the constant fire. Even though we are in exile, with challenges, we must remain alive, passionate and on fire.

Keep your fire burning,

Always  Constantly

Have a good Shabbos,

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman 

As Rabbis go, I’m a good one, not mediocre or average, Good! This is not my ego talking, and if I told you otherwise, that wouldn’t be humility, it would be a lie.

I also recognize that I can’t take the credit. My upbringing, my experiences, the way my mind works, the way I connect with people, none of that was manufactured by me. It was given to me by Hashem.

Eighteen years ago, I was doing my Rabbinical residency in Buenos Aires, Argentina. At a late-night Chassidic farbrengen, Rabbi Shabtai Slavaticki shared something from the previous Rebbe, something I’ve never forgotten. “Just as you must know your shortcomings, so too, you must recognize your positive qualities.”

He spent the next few hours telling us that the message from the previous Rebbe is not permission to be arrogant, it is an assignment. Your talents aren’t just yours to enjoy. The gifts Hashem gave you become your responsibilities, the specific things only you can give back to the world.

Worried about your ego getting in the way? The antidote is to remember what Moshe taught and thought, “someone else with my gifts would do more with them than I am”. Show gratitude to Hashem by using your talents for good.

The last letter of the first word in this week’s parsha, the alef in the word Vayikra, and G-d calls to Moshe, is written small. Why? Because Moshe Moshe remained “small”-humble.

He knew, and everyone knew, that Hashem was speaking directly to him. However, even in that moment of extraordinary intimacy with Hashem, he told himself, “Someone else with my gifts would do more with them than I am”.

That small Alef is the balance: courage and self-esteem on one side, humility and gratitude on the other.

That balance of self-respect and humility is what we try to model for our kids, our students, and, honestly, for ourselves. It's a lifelong balancing act, and the attempt itself is a form of greatness.

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

Are you working for a living or living for your work?

We all know the juggle. On one hand, we believe that everything comes from G-d. On the other hand, we've got bills, deadlines, clients, and a business to run. So does G-d provide or do we need to hustle?

In this week’s parsha, Parshas Vayakhel, the Torah says, "Six days work shall be performed." The Chassidic masters point out something fascinating about this phrasing: it doesn't say, as is commonly mistranslated, "six days you shall work." It says work shall be performed, passively, as if the work happens on its own. That's a strange way to talk about your 9-to-5 (or, let's be honest, your 7-to-10).

But here's what the Parsha is getting at. The root of idol worship was never about people bowing to rocks for no reason. It started when people recognized that G-d channels His blessings through intermediaries like the sun, stars, and other natural forces, and they began treating those channels as if they had independent power. They started honoring the messengers and forgetting the Sender.

When a person gets too invested in their business, not just working hard, but believing that their success depends on their cleverness and their hustle, that's a subtle form of the same mistake. You're treating the intermediary (your job, your business) as if it's the source. You're bowing to the pipeline instead of Hashem who fills it.

Your business is like an ax cutting a tree. You need to hold the ax and swing it. But the moment you start thinking the ax is doing the cutting on its own, you've lost your mind.

Our work should be done as a matter of course and not with the frantic energy of someone who thinks it's all dependent on them. It should be with the confidence of someone who knows that their sustenance is coming from Above, and the work is simply the channel.

Before you close your laptop and take a nap, this doesn't mean you shouldn't work hard. Quite the opposite. The teaching says: invest your effort, do your job well, show up and labor. However, do it with the trust that it's G-d who's providing. As the verse says, "G-d your L-rd will bless you in all that you do". There needs to be something "you do" for the blessing to flow through.

The key is your mindset. Work hard, but don't worship the work. Put in the effort and recognize that success isn't coming from your brilliance alone. When you do that, something remarkable happens: the stress drops, but the productivity doesn't.

This week, try this: before you dive into your workday, take a moment to remind yourself that your business is a channel, not a source. You'll still put in the hours. You'll still make the calls. And you'll do it with a lighter grip; like someone who knows the Boss upstairs has already signed off on the paycheck.

That's not laziness, it's faith in action.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

P.S. This is exactly the lesson embedded in the aftermath of the Golden Calf, which we just read about last week. The Calf wasn't just a random mistake. It was the ultimate example of people investing spiritual energy into an intermediary and treating it as the source. The process of rectifying that sin plays out in this week’s Torah portion, where the Torah reframes how we approach our work and our material lives. When you conduct your business "as a matter of course", doing what needs to be done while knowing it's really G-d running the show, you're actively fixing the spiritual root of the Golden Calf. You're saying: "I use tools, but I don't worship them."