To my dear child,
I wanted to take a moment to reflect on our recent conversation and the consequences that followed. As your parent, it's hard for me to see you struggle with the choices you've made, and it's even harder for me to be the one to discipline you.
Our actions have consequences which sometimes can be difficult. But I've also been thinking about the importance of recognizing our own significance in the world. When we feel unimportant, we can start to make choices that might not be in our best interest.
Moses was called humble even though he was the most important leader. True humility comes from recognizing our importance in the eyes of Hashem, our Higher Power. Imagine you were in a king's palace, and suddenly you find yourself...before the king! No one says a word. The king looks at you, watching with interest as you come near. Imagine how you would feel!
That is exactly how we stand all the time before Hashem, the king of all the world! (Tanya, Chapter 41). When we feel that we are constantly seen, valued, and important, we're more likely to make choices that align with our values and principles.
As your parent, it's my job to guide you and help you make good decisions. Although it's hard for me to see you struggle, I’m committed to helping you grow even when it’s difficult. It's like the verse says in this week's Torah portion, "If you will not hearken to Me, and walk casually with Me, I too will act casually with you." It's a reminder that our actions have consequences for us and those around us.
I know that punishment can be difficult. Yet, it's not about the punishment itself but the lessons we can learn from it. As the Chassidic masters say, "The most terrible of punishments is for G-d to indulge the sinner and say: 'All right, have it your way, I don't care about you. What you do and what happens to you is of no significance.’
I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me that I need to discipline you and to work with me to build a stronger, more loving relationship. I love you more than words can express.
With all my love,
Your Father