The secret to growth is a dead mitzvah.
The effect of doing a mitzvah is a connection with G-d. The word mitzvah, literally translated as commandment, is derived from the root word tzavsa, meaning attachment.
If I want to have a good relationship with my wife, I need to not only do the things I enjoy, that are easy and fun, but also the things that are boring, annoying, and ignored.
If you want to enhance any relationship, do the things that no one else is noticing or doing. Instead of getting roses, the ‘typical’ flower, notice that your wife likes tulips and get her those. Even more meaningful would be to notice the color she prefers them.
In Judaism, a Kohen is not allowed to come in contact with a dead body. However, when it comes to an unidentified, unclaimed dead body, even the High Priest can become impure to bury such a person.
This unclaimed body is referred to in Hebrew as a ‘mes mitzvah’, literally translated as a dead mitzvah. When you want to grow, find a mitzvah that is unidentified and unclaimed. A mitzvah that you don't want to deal with or explore. Try out the mitzvah that perhaps you only found out about recently and ensure it has a respectable resting place, in you.
Hashem notices that you got Him the "tulips" instead of the roses because you care to enhance your relationship with Him.
Not sure which mitzvah? Get in touch and we can discuss an idea that works for you. Heads up: it may take you out of your comfort zone. That is how growth happens!
See you soon, G-d willing.
Have an amazing Shabbos,
Kushi