When someone is helping you and things go awry, you might scream at them. Different versions of "What are you doing? Are you out of your mind?" come out of our mouths in those times of frustration. This is similar to what the Jews experienced when Moses led them out of Egypt. The Torah says: "The Egyptians chased after them and overtook them encamped by the sea; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;">This idea from Moses can be applied in our own lives. When people say offensive or attacking things, more often than not, it's just their pain or fear talking.
When children say to me things like "I hate you," or adults say things like "I am not interested in G-d, Torah or organized religion," I try not to take it at face value. What most are saying is, "I am in pain; I have a fear." Faith and love are there, beneath the surface of that hurt or anxiety.
What people express when they are in pain shouldn't be taken at face value; try to see beyond the words.
Have a good Shabbos, and I hope you can join me in shul.
Rabbi Kushi Schusterman