Debating religion is not healthy. Only one who is very proficient in his religion should ever get into a heated discussion about another’s religion. Hence, when asked if a friendship should continue when it consisted of many conversations about each one’s religious beliefs, I was hesitant to say yes. It seemed that one was trying to convert the other.
I believe in authentic relationships. If the goal of the connection is to force your religion on another or to impose on someone to be more religious than they are ready to be, it’s not genuine and probably won’t last too long.
I was once asked if the reason I am friendly with the local Jews is in order to “make them orthodox”. I replied no; I want to show people how to be true to who they are and have their souls shine. This would lead to a happier, peaceful life. Who wouldn’t want happy friends??
In this week’s Torah portion, Joseph meets and eats with his brothers. Even though Joseph kept a high level of Kosher, he didn’t think his brothers did and therefore, he doesn’t make it clear that he’s serving fully kosher meat.
How powerful of a lesson Joseph is teaching us! When hosting someone, we should ensure they have what they need. There is no need to force them to keep to your (higher) standards. One may have religious practices that they enjoy and are willing to share with others, yet it should not be imposed on them, let them ask!
Do you find us encouraging you to grow religiously or are we too pushy?
Let me know,
Rabbi Kushi Schusterman