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What is the Seder really about?

As we all prepare for Passover, which begins tomorrow (Wednesday) night, I want to encourage you to please consider, at a minimum, eating Matzah and drinking 4 cups of grape juice or wine after sundown, which is approximately 8 PM in Bel Air.

The Seder is a feast celebrating freedom. Freedom means having the ability to make choices on your own, without being held back by internal or external factors. This is true freedom.

We could put together a booklet for every line in the Haggadah explaining how it represents freedom. However, this Passover, I encourage you to take a moment to experience freedom. Not only going through a checklist of things that you must do to technically fulfill the requirements of the Seder, but to go to the Seder with an open mind and open heart. To recognize that 3,338 years ago, Hashem gave us the ability to choose. Hashem gave us the ability to recognize that every setback and every challenge is really an exercise routine meant to help us grow and see who we are in our souls.

When I speak to people who are in recovery, one of the things they tell me is that, by going through the 12-step process, they are forced to face their true selves and reveal their deepest selves.

The Seder is also a process; a 15-step process to true freedom.

Kadesh: Kiddush, sanctification. “Because I’ve created you in this world, because I’ve made you.” Hashem holds us in high esteem. We are holy.

Urchatz: Wash your hands, because we’re all imperfect. You are no less special than anybody else, and you are no more special than anybody else. We are setting the foundation of what it means to have a healthy understanding of who we are: created by Hashem, intentionally holy, and imperfect.

Karpas: We dip into saltwater. We begin to recognize that a profound, deep experience is about to unfold. A taste of bitter water. Tears. Making space for something we’re going to go through. Just a little bit to acknowledge what we’re about to experience.

Yachatz: The simple act of taking the whole self, cracking it, putting away the bigger half in hiding, and showing up with the smaller half, is a way of recognizing that, right now, we are still experiencing the smaller half of ourselves.

Maggid: Telling the story. We try to understand the whole of Egypt as we face our internal demons. Once you face your Egypt, you do not need to experience it ever again.

Rachtzah: Wash hands again. Recognize that while we are still working on ourselves, our hands are still imperfect.

Motzi, Matzah, Maror: We thank Hashem for the experience, the humility, and the bitterness. We experience each one separately.

Korech: We bring them all together. We recognize that the different parts of ourselves, the challenges and the blessings together is what makes us who we are and ready for redemption.

Shulchan Aruch: I am free and can enjoy that Hashem wants to nourish me. He wants me to experience physical pleasure together with divine pleasure. When done correctly, the physical pleasure is also part of serving Hashem.

Tzafun: The Afikoman. We can now reveal the full self that was hidden for a very long time. And who’s holding the bigger piece? The little kid (your inner child?).

Beyrach: Thank you, Hashem. You should be blessed as You gave me this perfectly imperfect life. You made me unique and free.

Hallel: We feel that we belong. The only thing left to do is get up and sing.

Nirtzah: The grand culmination of this entire process is to know that we are desired and wanted. Even if our Seder was imperfect, Hashem wants us.

This is the journey of Passover. From slavery to freedom, from hiding to wholeness, and from shame to song.

Just as our ancestors walked out of Egypt not knowing exactly what would come next, yet trusted that they were led by something greater, we too can walk out of this Seder a little freer than when we sat down. The matzah we eat is called the “bread of affliction”. It is also the bread of faith that our ancestors took with them on their way out. The same humble, simple thing that represents our pain is also the symbol of our redemption. That is the story of every one of us.

Wishing you and your family a kosher and joyful Passover; Chag Sameach!

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman
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You're doing everything right and yet... something's still missing.

There are certain things that need to be constant. They always need to be happening, not just last for a week or a year. They are beyond time.

The Torah tells us that the fire on the altar in the Holy Temple must always burn, without interruption. What makes this commandment remarkable is that even in a state of ritual impurity and even on Shabbos, the holiest day of the week, when nearly all labor is forbidden, the fire must burn.

Constantly

There are times when we may think we don't need a fire. We are in a state of ‘Shabbos’; attending every program, every class and fully invested in our spiritual experience. We feel at the peak of our religiosity. Even then, the Torah tells us that we need to keep the fire burning. That experience must not just technically be complete, another thing on our checklist, but also with passion, with fire.

Additionally, there are times when we feel very distant, impure. Times when we feel it is hard to generate a fire, an excitement for Judaism. In times of revealed antisemitism, it gets harder to be passionate, to be excited, to be outwardly Jewish. Yet, even in those times, even when we're feeling distant, the fire must not go out, we need to remain constantly excited.

And if the fire is missing, the sanctuary is incomplete. We can't convince ourselves that all is good as long as we're doing what we need to be doing. The fire must constantly burn! We must feel connected to the Torah that we study. Prayer should feel like a conversation with G-d; building an active relationship with Him. Acts of kindness and mitzvot must be done with excitement, passion and in a way that's contagious. Doing so will attract others to do the same; who doesn’t want to be part of something awesome and alive?

This is the challenge that the Amalekites created. They created a coldness, a frigidity, a lack of passion in our service of G-d. Amalek wanted us to feel that our Judaism was just habit and tradition/history. The antidote to that is the constant fire. Even though we are in exile, with challenges, we must remain alive, passionate and on fire.

Keep your fire burning,

Always  Constantly

Have a good Shabbos,

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman 


You’re better than you admit

 

As Rabbis go, I’m a good one, not mediocre or average, Good! This is not my ego talking, and if I told you otherwise, that wouldn’t be humility, it would be a lie.

I also recognize that I can’t take the credit. My upbringing, my experiences, the way my mind works, the way I connect with people, none of that was manufactured by me. It was given to me by Hashem.

Eighteen years ago, I was doing my Rabbinical residency in Buenos Aires, Argentina. At a late-night Chassidic farbrengen, Rabbi Shabtai Slavaticki shared something from the previous Rebbe, something I’ve never forgotten. “Just as you must know your shortcomings, so too, you must recognize your positive qualities.”

He spent the next few hours telling us that the message from the previous Rebbe is not permission to be arrogant, it is an assignment. Your talents aren’t just yours to enjoy. The gifts Hashem gave you become your responsibilities, the specific things only you can give back to the world.

Worried about your ego getting in the way? The antidote is to remember what Moshe taught and thought, “someone else with my gifts would do more with them than I am”. Show gratitude to Hashem by using your talents for good.

The last letter of the first word in this week’s parsha, the alef in the word Vayikra, and G-d calls to Moshe, is written small. Why? Because Moshe Moshe remained “small”-humble.

He knew, and everyone knew, that Hashem was speaking directly to him. However, even in that moment of extraordinary intimacy with Hashem, he told himself, “Someone else with my gifts would do more with them than I am”.

That small Alef is the balance: courage and self-esteem on one side, humility and gratitude on the other.

That balance of self-respect and humility is what we try to model for our kids, our students, and, honestly, for ourselves. It's a lifelong balancing act, and the attempt itself is a form of greatness.

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

 

Why the Ax doesn't cut it?

Are you working for a living or living for your work?

We all know the juggle. On one hand, we believe that everything comes from G-d. On the other hand, we've got bills, deadlines, clients, and a business to run. So does G-d provide or do we need to hustle?

In this week’s parsha, Parshas Vayakhel, the Torah says, "Six days work shall be performed." The Chassidic masters point out something fascinating about this phrasing: it doesn't say, as is commonly mistranslated, "six days you shall work." It says work shall be performed, passively, as if the work happens on its own. That's a strange way to talk about your 9-to-5 (or, let's be honest, your 7-to-10).

But here's what the Parsha is getting at. The root of idol worship was never about people bowing to rocks for no reason. It started when people recognized that G-d channels His blessings through intermediaries like the sun, stars, and other natural forces, and they began treating those channels as if they had independent power. They started honoring the messengers and forgetting the Sender.

When a person gets too invested in their business, not just working hard, but believing that their success depends on their cleverness and their hustle, that's a subtle form of the same mistake. You're treating the intermediary (your job, your business) as if it's the source. You're bowing to the pipeline instead of Hashem who fills it.

Your business is like an ax cutting a tree. You need to hold the ax and swing it. But the moment you start thinking the ax is doing the cutting on its own, you've lost your mind.

Our work should be done as a matter of course and not with the frantic energy of someone who thinks it's all dependent on them. It should be with the confidence of someone who knows that their sustenance is coming from Above, and the work is simply the channel.

Before you close your laptop and take a nap, this doesn't mean you shouldn't work hard. Quite the opposite. The teaching says: invest your effort, do your job well, show up and labor. However, do it with the trust that it's G-d who's providing. As the verse says, "G-d your L-rd will bless you in all that you do". There needs to be something "you do" for the blessing to flow through.

The key is your mindset. Work hard, but don't worship the work. Put in the effort and recognize that success isn't coming from your brilliance alone. When you do that, something remarkable happens: the stress drops, but the productivity doesn't.

This week, try this: before you dive into your workday, take a moment to remind yourself that your business is a channel, not a source. You'll still put in the hours. You'll still make the calls. And you'll do it with a lighter grip; like someone who knows the Boss upstairs has already signed off on the paycheck.

That's not laziness, it's faith in action.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

P.S. This is exactly the lesson embedded in the aftermath of the Golden Calf, which we just read about last week. The Calf wasn't just a random mistake. It was the ultimate example of people investing spiritual energy into an intermediary and treating it as the source. The process of rectifying that sin plays out in this week’s Torah portion, where the Torah reframes how we approach our work and our material lives. When you conduct your business "as a matter of course", doing what needs to be done while knowing it's really G-d running the show, you're actively fixing the spiritual root of the Golden Calf. You're saying: "I use tools, but I don't worship them."

A penny for your soul (literally)

Have you ever noticed that the money you work hardest for is the money you feel most connected to?

G-d commanded the Jewish people to each give a half-shekel. Moshe was perplexed, how could this small gift of money bring atonement for the soul? How could a coin fix the soul?

G-d showed him something extraordinary. He pulled out a coin of fire from beneath the Throne of Glory and said, "This is what they should give."

A coin of fire. Think about that for a moment.

A coin represents something measured and defined. Fire represents passion and energy. These two things seem like opposites; structure and discipline vs. spontaneity and feeling. And yet, G-d fused them together into a single object: a coin made of fire.

This is the secret of tzedakah.

When you earn money, you pour your fire into it; your time, your creativity, your sweat and your passion. That money isn't just currency, it carries a piece of you. When you give that money to a good cause or to someone in need, you are taking your personal fire and transforming it into something holy. You are turning passion into purpose.

When you give tzedakah, you're not just being generous, you're being asked to do something that goes beyond your natural instincts. Although you might feel good about helping others, pure tzedakah means giving because G-d asked you to. Not because of how it makes you feel nor because the receiver "deserves" it. That's the "coin" part; the structure, the discipline, the acceptance of something higher than yourself.

And yet, the giving itself has to be done with warmth and sensitivity. You have to make the other person feel comfortable. Your acceptance of G-d's will isn't cold, it's infused with energy and feeling. Fire inside a coin.

That's why tzedakah is so powerful. It fuses two opposites within you. And when you can hold structure and passion together, discipline and feeling, it reaches deep enough to bring atonement for the soul. Even for the deepest stuff.

What does this mean for us, practically, in 2026?

There's something powerful about making tzedakah a daily habit, not just when you're in shul or at an event, but every single day (except Shabbos and Holidays). A small amount, consistently, with intention.

Most of us don't carry coins anymore (they discontinued the penny). Yet, we all have “smart” phones. You can set up a daily giving habit right from your phone, a modern-day "coin of fire" and direct it to causes that matter. To make this easier, we have partnered with Colel Chabad to use their Pushka App. Colel Chabad feeds the poor in Israel. Through the app, you can give daily to Harford Chabad, supporting Jewish life right here in Harford County, and to Colel Chabad, the oldest continuously operating charity in Israel, founded in 1788.

Download the app and join our Harford Chabad pushka at pushkapp.cc/harford-chabad.

It takes 30 seconds to set up. And every day, your phone becomes your pushka, your personal coin of fire.

The half-shekel was small. The fire inside it was infinite. Your daily giving can be the same.

Have a wonderful Shabbos!

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

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