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How to Tell Someone Off

Thursday, 23 July, 2020 - 3:56 pm

Someone did something wrong. You are upset, so you go over to them and say 'I can't believe you.  I was very clear, and you didn't listen to me!' They do not even hear you, and you get more frustrated!

Someone did something wrong. You are upset, so you go over to them and hint to what they did wrong. They get the hint and you see they are ready to be corrected. So, you give more details, and they learn from their mistake.

Someone did something wrong. You are upset, so you go over to them and hint to what they did wrong. They get the hint and you see they see their mistake as an opportunity for growth. The mistake is no longer a negative thing- it is positive. Had I not made that mistake, I would never have grown to be who I am today.

As one of the great masters (Rabbi Sholom Dov Ber Schneerson of Lubavitch, 1859-1920) taught: Cherish criticism, for that is what will raise you to true heights.

We read in this week's Parsha's opening verse: “These are the words which Moses spoke to all Israel on that side of the Jordan in the desert, in the plain opposite the Red Sea, between Paran and Tofel and Lavan and Hazeroth and Di Zahav.”

The problem is that the Jews were never in some of these places. 

The regular commentators say Moses was hinting. Di Zahav, for example, was a reminder of the Sin of the Golden Calf (zahav meaning ‘gold').

Later, in the Parsha, he gets more explicit because he saw they were listening.

The Chassidic interpretation is that he was not rebuking them, but he saw that they no longer viewed their sins as bad, but as a catalyst for improvement.

Have you ever reframed a 'bad action' and made it good?

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

 
P.S. Join us Tuesday to hear a story of triumph From Rabbi Avermi Zippel who overcame abuse to become the man he is today register here https://www.harfordchabad.org/templates/articlecco_cdo/aid/4818522/jewish/From-Surviving-to-Thriving.htm

 

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