Monogamy means there is only one person who you connect with on that deep intimate level. It doesn’t happen overnight that you get married and then you are only focused on your spouse. You get there through constant effort and regularly connecting and reconnecting.
In Judaism, a marriage union means exclusively being there for each other and no one else. It doesn’t mean you can’t be in other relationships. Marriage means being exclusively intimate with your spouse and no other.
We find this exclusiveness in a different union. One that is compared to a marriage. The union between G-d and his bride, the Jewish people. Just as in marriage, we need to work on making it an intimate relationship. One where G-d isn’t some heavenly being that is not involved in our lives. Nor one that hangs out in the synagogue. G-d is an existence that cares about us. He is connected with us like a good spouse.
As we continue the month of Elul, let’s ensure our union with G-d is truly intimate, focused and monogamous. Lets get rid of our relationships with other so called “gods” that we worship, like money, fame, our bodies etc.
Throughout this month we need to ask ourselves: Are we monogamous in our relationship with G-d? Are we continuously ensuring that we are connecting and reconnecting?