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Sally & Jack

Wednesday, 22 April, 2015 - 9:03 pm

Sally told her friend about something Jack, another friend of hers, had done. When Jack found out that Sally was talking behind his back, he was very upset. Because Jack values his relationship with Sally, he considered either one of these two responses:

a) Call Sally directly and tell her that he is upset that she is talking about him and hopes it won’t happen again; he values their relationship and he is afraid that these types of things will get in the way.


b) Send a message with a friend to tell Sally that her actions were improper.  However, the messenger should wait until Sally returns from vacation to relay the message.  Until she gets back it is like it did not happen.

There are two ways that G-d relates to us when we err:

1) He shares with us that the mistakes are getting in between our relationship with Him, and He hopes that we will look for ways to repair the relationship – starting with not doing the misdeed again.


2) G-d will send us a message that the misdeeds are not ok but will wait until we complete doing the mitzvah and the good deed that we are in middle of.

We should try to find ways to make amends with those that we hurt or that hurt us. Nonetheless, this should not take away from respecting the good that they do!

Which way is better? It’s an argument in the Talmud – for more on this argument and how these disagreements developed join us for the upcoming JLI course in Harford County at (elsewhere at ).

Have a wonderful Shabbos,

Rabbi Kushi Schusterman

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